Which is more complicated?
14 September 2009 - 14:06
Alfred Lord Tennyson once said in his poem,
I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.'
And I say, 'Tis never to be loved and lost, than having to love at all.'
In a world of complexity and mismatch, what sustains the wonderful creation of love and how much value it holds? Love, an intangible and weightless force can fill ones empty shell with the juices of joy and laughter. Yet it can encapsulate anyone to the bottomless pit of despair and pain.
Our creation was never to be single to begin with but a pair with opposite features, needs and sometimes belief. To believe it or not, love makes unification of opposite ends possible. We compromise and give up on many things such as freedom, privacy and sometimes our personal principals. We grumble and whine, yet we always end up saying, "I did all these things for you." But our inner self sometimes question, "Then who is making sacrifices for me?"
And when all things fail, we ask for a chance to change. "Just give me more time and you'll see how much I'll change for you." But have you ever asked yourself why are you remoulding yourself for someone who was a total stranger to you when you first met him/her. Maybe this is the unquestionable power of love. It erases your dignity, pride and even blinds you from reality.
Truth to be told, loves makes others jealous or to put it nicely, envious. When you see how others get in love so easily, you wonder if there's anything wrong with you. "How someone can do it yet I can't?" Is this a question of fate, destiny or maybe the time is not right yet? You decide because "only time can tell." Really?
Putting all things aside, without love, there will never be creation. Many things happen because we have the passion to make it happen. And passion comes a lot from sacrifices and love. Without the love from our parents, we will never be born and be brought up as respectable and refined people. The invention of cars, electricity, Internet will not have come true if not for the love of the inventors interests in these fields and the encouragement they received from they loved ones.
In a love relationship,we learn and experience many things. Every relationship carries different stories that we were once very committed to till kingdom comes. But in every breakup, lessons brought forth to us are always dismissed and the cycle repeat itself again. When will our love fairy tale ever come?
'Tis never to be loved and lost
than having to love at all.'
or
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.'